I personally do great at getting work done, but like many people am not great at getting things done for myself!
And because I’m a believer, I have a coach. In fact I have a coach I talk to twice a week, a mastermind group and 3 accountability partners. That’s how much I believe in the power of support and accountability.
But in my personal life things can get kind of edgy because I can let work overshadow everything, especially if I’m worried about money (yes, it does still happen from time to time even though I’ve been doing this for years). And because I’m an entrepreneur and because I know the power of taking action (which is the second step in the Financial Bliss Blueprint) I have tended to put my all into work when I get even a little stressed. And let’s face it, it’s pretty easy to get stressed out these days.
My coach and I work on this balance because it’s one of the keys to success. Recently we came to an inspiring idea I wanted to share with you. It’s called the Nourishing Brilliance Report (NBR)!
The things I struggle with most right now are: getting outside every day (oh the joys of working at home!), getting enough movement, and eating good food frequently enough to sustain me.
The basics, right? (Yes, I wish I struggle with something easy like… no I guess I can’t think of something easy to struggle with. All struggles are hard. It’s their nature.)
I also know that support and accountability is the way to make sure I stay on track. So we put together a little tracking device. Every day I send her a Nourishing Brilliance Report.
It contains: 2 scores: a 0-10 on whether I’ve gotten outside and went for a walk and a 0-10 about whether I’m writing down what I’m eating (which for me means that I’m actually eating well).
After I send her the NBR, she sends me back a high five.
And then I do a little happy dance and soak in my success.
There are some rules, just to be clear.
The first one is that we started by committing to 10 days. That’s it. This is not a lifetime commitment. This is a way to jumpstart me and my return to loving habits. Putting goals in a container of time is how to have success. Saying, “I’ll do this forever” or even every day for a year is too long if you haven’t done it before or if you have no recent success in this particular area.
When you build goals, always start small so that you can have successes early and often. That will build your confidence, your momentum, and your capacity to accomplish bigger and better things.
The second one is that I’m allowed to fall off the horse one day a week. So on the days when I’m not home, or I’m really overwhelmed, or I just want to stage a rebellion and sleep all day, I can. I don’t have to be a super-rock-star on my first time out – or any time. I get to be human, make mistakes and keep going.
Being able to make mistakes and not flail ourselves is another key to success. You will make mistakes. You’re human, it is in your nature. Allowing that to happen and to dive into loving yourself and having a compassion is one of the most critical things you can do to build success in your life.
I’m telling you this because you can have it too. You can have it with tracking your money, working, playing, exercising, with your kids or relationships – anything you can think of. (Yes, anything.)
The only real requirement is that you have to be vulnerable enough with someone you care about to share what you really want and to go for it with them.
And you could call it anything you like. Pick two words that you love or an idea you aspire to and give it to yourself in the form of some loving accountability and support.
I believe in you. (No, really. I do. I know this to be a thing that works and I know that you’re on this list because you want to make change. You can do this if you want it.)
And as always, I’d love to hear about it – no matter how it turns out.