Today I talked to a client who’s been having what, in OrgasmLand, we call climax. Meaning he’s been having all kinds of stuff “happening to him.”
Some of it has been great, some has been terrible.
He fell in love, he fell out of love, he got a job, he decided to move, someone stopped him from moving. On and on and on.
People keep telling him to “ground” himself. And he resisted and resisted.
He came to our session really high from everything that’s been happening. Intoxicated with the fast paced changes.
All of which having NOTHING to do with what he said he wanted. Nothing to do with his work or his stated passion of moving forward his goals.
How many times has that happened to you? That you’re running around doing everything that’s right in front of you and getting exactly nowhere?
I mean this guy spent a lot of energy packing, but didn’t move. He spent a lot of energy in relationship, but she is now engaged to someone else.
It’s utterly overwhelming!
And you know what?
It’s the PERFECT way to be distracted from what you really want. It’s the perfect way to let everything get in the way of what you want. And then you have a hundred reasons why you couldn’t do that thing that you really wanted. And you get to hold on to the stories of lack, sadness, upset and overwhelm.
Do you know what’s happening here? This client is everywhere but home – with himself. He’s seeking answers everywhere but where he’ll find them: inside himself.
So after he told me the whole story, we worked on one muscle – one piece of money magic that I come back to over and over and over.
It’s literally a process of connecting with the ground. Of coming back home from all that flitting about.
It is also the process of coming back to reality when there’s “stuff” happening that’s hugely emotional. Or too much stuff happening. Or any time you don’t feel like yourself. It’s the practice I encourage my students to use before every Sacred Money Date and before making financial decisions.
Here’s a beginning grounding exercise. No experience necessary.
Process: Take a deep breath. Stop whatever else you’re doing. Find a safe place to close your eyes (sometimes a quick trip to the bathroom is just the ticket). Take 3 deep breaths.
Feel your feet on ground. Notice where you have any sensations – maybe your butt on a chair or your arm touching something. And breathe. Notice your physical body and breathe. Notice your thoughts. Just notice. Don’t try to change. And breathe.
There are much deeper versions of this exercise that we do with clients and in classes. But I wanted to make sure you had a tool right now to help bring you back to yourself. Because if you’re not grounded, it’s difficult to make decisions or to get anywhere.
Try it and let me know how it goes!